If we are going to be true instruments of mercy in each other’s lives, we must deal in truth–God’s truth. Not blissful, artificial denial, trying to act as though the hurt never happened. Not rigid, mechanical words and formulas, as if following some legalistic, step-by-step instruction were all that was required…

It’s important to realize that forgiveness does not mean pretending that the offense never happened. That’s not honest. That is denial. True forgiveness is not about mind games and dream worlds–it’s not about escaping from reality. It’s about facing reality and dealing with it God’s way.

 –Nancy Leigh DeMoss