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   “Let it be then your first solicitude to exhibit, in your early life and single state, all those general and moral beauties which form the character of virgin excellence.

Be holy, industrious, modest, benevolent, and useful: inspire hope in every beholder, and awaken expectation.

But then, be ever anxious, studious, and prayerful, that in the transition from single to the wedded state; in the development of the girl into the woman, all that was lovely, artless, and simple in youthful charms, shall, with unbroken and unvarying consistency, ripen into all that is holy, estimable, venerable in the wife, the mother, and the matron.”

John Angell James
(1785-1858)
In his book, Female Piety

by Kaylene

The Lord has been teaching me that relationships are not complete and satisfying until my aim is off of my happiness and on the pleasure and glory of the Lord. I must ask myself, “Am I striving for personal pleasure-or God’s will?” My tendency though is to seek my own pleasures in the name of God’s will. I gauge God’s will by my happiness. I’ve heard the verse over and over lately, “Delight yourself in the Lord and He will give thee the desires of thine heart.” But I get it so backwards. I’ve had this underlying misconception that for a relationship to be successful it is because I and the other person involved is happy.

I’m not writing of sin that I know is sin. We don’t have to ask the Lord what His will is on many things. I know certain things are wrong. And if I delight myself in the Lord, He will not give me what is wrong for me to have. I struggle more when I’m trying to determine God’s BEST way that I seem to think that it revolves around me. And it does not. Yes, my decisions can revolve around me, and God will even cause those selfish ones to bring Him glory in some way. (He is so amazing!) but He always has a better plan. This may sound confusing, but even if we have the same plan—God and I—but I’m taking a course of action because I think it will be the best for my future, its still wrong. I haven’t chosen the right way. Same action—different perspective…coming from a changed heart.

“And whatsoever ye do in word or deed, do all in the name of the Lord Jesus, giving thanks to God and the Father by Him.”

{Colossians 3:17}

“Love does not seek its own”
Sometimes I wonder what people are thinking about me. Sometimes I wonder if people’s opinions of me have changed since the last time I heard them say, “I love you” or “I’m so glad you’re my friend”. I WANT TO KNOW! If I don’t know, then how will I know the depth and reality of our friendship? Why can’t I trust? Why should they have to keep repeating themselves? Any insecurities in a relationship, like these ones, are because I’m seeking my own pleasure, instead of focusing on the Lord. If I first and foremost love the Lord, than I will be bent on serving those friends, not them “lip-serving” me. If my aim is the pleasure of the Lord, then my love can be pure and edifying to my friends. And then the friendship becomes real.

“And whatso ever ye do, do it heartily, as to the Lord, and not unto
men; knowing that of the Lord ye shall receive the reward of the inheritance; for ye serve the Lord Christ.”
{Colossians 3:23}

In trying to summarize these scattered thoughts…
I’m a scoundrel to take for myself what could be the Lord’s Who rightfully deserves it. When my relationships are for and based on the pleasure of the Lord, than they bring such contentment—peace—love—and joy overflowing. Even though I’m seeking the Lord’s pleasure and not those things, God delights in delighting us! Who else but my Jesus can I give my broken pieces to and have them fixed and shaped into a better vessel then I had before? The relationship in a Christian’s life ought to be with Jesus. Daily walking, not weekly visitation. Human relationships with people who fail (= everyone) become oh so sweet when built on and for the One who never fails.

“…Seek those things which are above where Christ sitteth on the right hand of God. Set your affection on things above not on things on the earth…” Col. 3:1-3

“Thy will be done on earth as it is in heaven.”

“…When Christ, Who is our life, shall appear, then shall ye also appear with Him in glory.” Col. 3:4

My PhotoKaylene’s general interests include studying God’s word, medical work, missions, children and babies, photography, family, traveling, reading, computers and blogging, running, and laughing. She is a nurses assistant and a senior home schooled highschooler. “I’m continually learning about my Savior, as long as I keep my eyes turned on His wonderful face.”

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